As I read through the comments on Facebook over the weekend, I felt compelled to revisit the subject and I want to remind you of why it is a grave mistake to remain friends with an ex that has mistreated you.
The reason why we want to remain friends with our exes, even when they have treated us ‘less than’ with an absence of love, care, trust, and respect, is because we want to feel .
All of the neighbors heard her terrible sobs and screams “GET OUT! Alex knew he made some mistakes, but he really loved her and he just wanted to know how he could make her feel good about him again.
It just seemed there was no way to wipe the slate clean and start over again. It seemed that everything he tried only made things worse. What if you could turn back time and get your relationship back to what it used to be?
It’s wanting to be there on some terms rather than no terms.
It’s trying to be The Good Girl (or The Good Guy) because you don’t want to seem like you’re being immature.
It’s not some mind tricks and cheap gimmicks that you will use to trick your ex into getting back together.
If you are planning to trick your ex or force them into being with you, you are just going to end up in another miserable breakup.
I’ve written about it so many times over the years and yet I continue to be baffled as to why, particularly with women, we seem to have a hardcore desire to throw ourselves at the front line of pain with exes that mistreated us.
The reason why we want to remain friends with our exes, even when they have treated us ‘less than’ with an absence of love, care, trust, and respect, is because we want to feel , that friendship is like the last chance saloon.
We’ve expended emotions and energy on the other person and are heavily invested.
If your relationship still doesn’t work, then you can rest assured that this relationship wasn’t meant to be.
These 3 steps are based on simple psychological techniques that work extremely well after a breakup.